Every reader has different skills: Most of us do multiple things but not everything is our “specialty” for example in my case I am great with intuitive readings but not so great with mediumship so unless your dead grandmother is jumping up and screaming at me to get my attention I may have trouble connecting with her. If you want to connect with a relative who has passed select a reader who lists themselves as a Medium.
Mediumship and Channeling are two different things: Mediumship is bringing through messages from a deceased relative. Channeling is typically bringing through messages from a higher level spiritual being like a guide. The confusion often comes in because some people use the term “Channel” to say a person is channeling a deceased relative which is kind of true but as a channel myself who is not a medium I hate to see a client book a session where they think they will talking to their father who has passed, and I am trying to give them messages from their spirit guide. Its still fun but maybe not what the client thought they were getting.
20 minutes is a bit too short: Most of us will gladly do 20-minute readings all day but if you can do at least 30 you get a LOT more information. It takes a bit of time to tune in and as the reading progresses the information really starts to flow in which is just about the time the timer goes off. A 30-45-minute reading is ideal to get the best information unless there are just one or two specific things you are looking for.
Come with questions: When clients come in without questions its fine but keep in mind that when you do that spirit will share what they want you to know which frankly will more likely be about your spiritual path than your romantic relationship. If you really want to know about something ask, we love to share the information you most want to know.
Don’t ask us when your birthday is: People will sometimes ask questions like that to test us and see if we are the real deal. The truth is it really isn’t easy to get a job here and all of us have been thoroughly vetted. But most importantly that is a parlor trick and not how spirit works. Imagine your guild doing all the work of planting the seed in your head to get you to a reading so they can tell you to write that book you have been thinking about and instead you spend some of your time asking the reader what kind of car you drive. Trust me, spirit would much rather tell you about your life’s purpose.
Don’t ask a question that you don’t really want to know the answer to: The question “Is he cheating” is a great example of this. If I say, “oh hell yes! and the other woman is gorgeous!!” I am likely to get punched in the face but honestly that is sometimes the truth. Understand also that the answer to that question isn’t really that helpful. If a client asks it I already know their relationship is in trouble even if he isn’t cheating. If you are feeling neglected and unsatisfied in your relationship you really need to look at why that is and what YOU need for things to be better.
Its ok to feed the reader: I know people are reluctant to give us readers information as a way of testing us to see if we are the real deal but in the case of a question I get a lot, “Is Brian or Bill a better match for me?” it is very helpful for me to get a bit of info on the two of them so I can tune into their energy. Particularly if the names are similar. A bit of information helps us more easily zero in in what you really want to know and give you the advice you most need.
Guides have a sense of humor: People often think of guilds as being angelic beings like Saint Peter solemn and calm dispensing wisdom which is true however, real guilds are just a likely to say something funny and sarcastic as the next person. I had a clients guild once say to me in response to a clients question “Tell her I have answered that already with 3 other readers and to stop asking it” I am saying to their guild “I cant say that its rude” the guild says “Do it she will find it funny” and the client did because she had been going from reader to reader asking that same question. Guilds have even been known to use the F-word so if you are hearing wisdom from a guild that seems irreverent don’t be taken aback guilds can be very funny.
Chose the reader who is most like you: Read through the bios and get as much of a sense as you can of who each of us are when deciding. But as a business owner myself I find it very easy to tap into good business advise for clients because I’ve encountered a lot of the same problems. For things I have no real understanding like the acting and television world I might still be able to give good advice, but it might not come as easily as “Tell me what I need to do for my business”.
Reading is about love: Your guilds love you, I hear that from every guild I con
nect with and they want you to know that you are important and you are loved. As readers its about love for us as well since we do this because we know how much it can help people get through a rough patch, make a tough decision and understand themselves better and that for many of us is why we do this. Know that you are important, you are loved, and we would love to see you come in for a reading sometime. Bring some questions!
Jill Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Encinitas, CA 92024