How to heal one-sided relationships Most people don’t realize this but a relationship, even when it’s with family, is a lot like a business arrangement. Even one with your best friend. They get the privilege of telling you all their problems and in exchange you can tell them all of yours and they will ALWAYS […]
Relationships and Connection
Happy Breakup Season!
Happy Breakup Season! Ask any divorce lawyer or counselor, the six weeks between New Year’s and Valentine’s Day are when the most breakups happen. Nobody wants to be alone during the holidays and nobody wants to buy an expensive gift for someone they don’t want to be with anymore. More than one in four of […]
How to “Forgive” when you can’t “Forget”
How to “Forgive” when you can’t “Forget” One day a client we will call Mary (because I love that name) came in and told me an ugly family story of violation and pain which I will spare you. But that’s not why she was coming in. She was coming in because even though she “forgave” […]
You vs Guilt; secrets to crushing this unhealthy emotion
You vs Guilt; secrets to crushing this unhealthy emotion Ahh … Guilt, my favorite emotion. Why is it my favorite? Funny you should ask. I love it because it’s not a natural human emotion, it’s something put on us by our family of origin and it’s a tool for control. And control it does. Just […]
What you need to know about why people lash out
What you need to know about why people lash out I have worked with a lot of clients over the years and I have come to learn that there are some wants and needs that everyone seems to have. Everyone wants to feel: -Safe, Valued, Appreciated, Respected, Accepted, Understood, Heard, Trusted, Connected to others. […]