Why True Healing is Important Before Making Big Life change
Many of the people that come into my office are hoping to escape unpleasant emotions like sadness, loneliness, or feeling stuck. How this usually shows up is in what I call dramatic decisions. They may say things like:
“I want a divorce. I don’t want to be married anymore.”
“I need to move to Seattle, Portland, or Denver. I just don’t like it here anymore.”
“I need to quit my job. I can’t stand it anymore.”
“I need to lose weight right now or I can’t be happy.”
Don’t get me wrong, I can help these clients and it’s my pleasure to be of service; but, if you don’t heal the REASONS why you are feeling compelled to make a dramatic major life change you will just manifest the same problems again. That’s what I call “manifesting from drama,” and people are incredible at manifesting the exact same problem repeatedly when they don’t do the detective work and heal the real need first.
So, what do I do?
When you find yourself saying things like the above, now is not the time to act, now is the time to contemplate. Get a journal and ask yourself the following questions:
“Why do I feel this way?”
“What is really going on here?”
“What am I needing that I am not receiving?”
Get a therapist to help you if you need it, but don’t run away from the situation before understanding why and what you need the next situation to look like. Your emotions are not always the best guide. Feeling bad is not a healthy call to action, it’s a call to reflect.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you shouldn’t do any or all the things above. For some of you that really is the right course of action. But that decision should come AFTER answering the questions and coming to a peaceful place with your decision.
Lastly, it’s important to say that whatever you think you need you will not find in a bottle of alcohol, pills, pot, chocolate, or online shopping. Use of any of those things is a distraction. Face your feelings, make friends with them, and understand your real needs so that true healing can be possible.
Know that you are loved, that you are important to the world, and that your needs matter. Take the time to understand that, and feel it yourself.
Jill Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy