In addition to Hypnotherapy I also moonlight as a psychic reader at a bookstore. Having been there a while now and seeing clients in my office for hypnotherapy, I am gaining a great insight into human nature.
Would you like to know what people most commonly ask about? It’s worded a lot of different ways depending on the context but most often the questions I get are about “does X like me?” “How does my company feel about me?” “Why is my sister so mean to me? Does she not like me?” “How does my husband, boyfriend, that guy I just met on Tinder, feel about me?”
The question of if we are loved, accepted, and valued is a very important one to humans in general and, unfortunately, the answer if negative often leads us to feeling rejected, sad, and unloved.
The reality is that what someone else thinks of you is none of your business and most people would be far better off as well as happier if they were more concerned with how they felt about the other person. But that’s not how we are wired, and it takes a tremendous amount of what my great-grandfather would call “intestinal fortitude,” AKA confidence and self-esteem, to not care (he was an odd guy, but I loved him).
Right now, start looking around your world and decide to spend more time in loving connection with those that do get you, that do love you, who are supportive and there for you. I bet you haven’t called those folks in a while. Instead you (and me, too, I will admit) have been lamenting about the ones that are mean, disrespectful, or not worthy of your time and energy.
It takes a great deal of “intestinal fortitude” to shift that focus back to your more loving circle, especially if the ones you are avoiding have the same last name as you, but trust me you will be much happier if you let the other go. If you can’t, work on not giving a flying flip (g-grandpa, too) what they think. It’s work, I know, but you and those you influence with your example are so worth the effort.
And if you need help with this, schedule an appointment. Confidence and intestinal fortitude are one of my specialties. know that you are loved!!
Jill Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Encinitas, CA 92024