The real Causes of anxiety and how to fix it
In my hypnotherapy practice, everyone assumes the number-one thing I see is fears/phobias, and I do see a lot of that but by far the biggest issue I work with clients on is anxiety. Sometimes nearly 75% of my practice is made up of anxiety clients. But not everyone thinks that’s what they are coming in for.
Frequently, anxiety manifests itself as a lot of things: emotional eating, emotional spending, social anxiety, so-called confidence issues, and lack of sleep. While all of these may seem like problems, they are just symptoms of anxiety.
For clients who experience anxiety, I always tell them to find a quiet space and ask themselves the following:
Is there something in my life that I really need to look at that I am trying to avoid?
Is there a problem in my life that is making me unhappy?
I often hear answers like this:
“My husband/wife and I are having problems. We fight all the time.”
“I hate my job and I am miserable at work.”
“I want to be doing X but I have a young family so I can’t change careers right now.”
Sometimes it’s things that are not easy to spot, like:
-Unhealed emotional wounds that could sure use some counseling.
-Being very sensitive and picking up on other people’s issues and problems.
Avoidance of any of these things does not make them go away, it just causes stress and trust me we all get enough of that already. You need to really look at these issues.
There are also some very physical things that can contribute to anxiety.
-TV—just say “no.” Seriously it’s so stressful watching the news and there is almost nothing we can do about any of it. If you tend to be anxious, just say no to the news.
-Need for more exercise. The undisputed king of stress reducers is exercise, particularly things like yoga and jogging which take you into your own world of health.
-Caffeine: nobody needs a cup of coffee; caffeine is a drug not a food item. Trust me, I love it too, but it’s not good for anyone to be drinking it all the time. Work your way down.
As a side note over the years, I have observed that ethnic Jews (not the Jewish faith but rather those who have a heritage of being Jewish) have a much harder time with anxiety. They are the ones who tell me they can never remember any time when they didn’t feel anxiety as opposed to my other clients who can say it started when they were 10 and their parents got divorced.
This has let me to believe that anxiety can be passed down through the DNA and a family history of trauma seems to be a part of this problem.
If this is an issue for you, know that there is help. Hypnotherapy is the most effective way to heal anxiety that I have ever seen, and I would encourage everyone with anxiety to give it a try. My clients see massive improvements after just one session so I know it works.
Love yourself enough to do the work to get help.
Jill K Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Author of the books “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”
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