“Ma’am, the pain you say you are having is all in your head.” I can’t tell you how many clients show up to my office because a well-meaning doctor told them the pain they were experiencing was all in their head.
I wanted to talk about this because it even happened to me recently. I crunched on some unpopped popcorn while on vacation, heard a cracking sound, and suddenly started feeling pain in my tooth. “That’s it, I cracked a tooth,” I thought, but my dentist disagreed. And after three trips where I kept insisting that something was wrong and I was in a lot of pain he finally said the pain was in my head and I should see a hypnotherapist for my “phantom pain.” I thought he was joking so I laughed not realizing till later that he didn’t know what I do for a living. I admit it kills me that I didn’t find out who he would have recommended.
I went back to my old dentist and, guess what, I had cracked my tooth in four places. They were small cracks apparently, easily missed if you weren’t really looking.
There was a time before doctors understood the condition called fibromyalgia where doctors called it the “housewives disease” because it seemed to affect that group of people the most. They didn’t believe it was a thing and those clients did not get taken seriously.
I want people to know that pain should be taken seriously because when I tell people who come in for pain that’s “all in their head” to go see a different doctor, almost 100% of them say the new doctor found something very real that had been missed.
I think we in general and women more frequently are taught to believe every word their doctors say without question and this I think is a mistake. My aunt is a doctor and even she wishes her patients wouldn’t just take her word for it and go do their own research on meds and treatments that she recommends.
Bottom line, if something sounds like BS or you feel like the advice you are receiving is wrong, don’t assume because the person giving it has a PhD that it must be perfect. Listen to your own inner voice and go with that. And if you need a good dentist, go see Dr. Molinar in Carlsbad. He is the best.
Jill Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Encinitas, CA 92024