I hate that word—sensitive. I have always hated it for lots of reasons ever since I was a child and my mom used to say I was too “sensitive” because I cried when someone was mean to me or when someone else around me was in pain. I hated it because it made me sound weak but mostly, I hated it because it was inaccurate.
When an intuitive child cries because someone is mean to them, it’s not because they are weak, it’s because they can feel the malice directed at them in a very physical way, often in the heart chakra. That’s not about being too “sensitive,” it’s about being very preceptive and intuitive, which is actually a gift rather than the perceived curse of “weakness.”
This is frequently how a child learns to doubt their abilities. They are told they are just too sensitive rather than having adults acknowledge that the child is picking up on something the big people are not able to.
So how do we help “sensitive” children?
Start by calling them “intuitive” or perceptive and helping them acknowledge the gift and the curse of their abilities. The curse is easier to spot; it’s being able to feel other people’s problems. The gift is that they will know before someone else when they are being lied to, when they are in danger, or when someone just isn’t right. Of course, another part of the curse is that unless they learn how to interpret the messages they receive, they may find themselves overreacting to situations, but that’s where you as the parent come in so you can help them understand.
What they need:
-Practice learning how to discern whether what they feel is from them or when they are picking up on other energies or emotions.
-Help them learn to set boundaries so the child doesn’t end up spending all their time listening to other people’s problems but not getting to express their own feelings and emotions.
-Teach them how to not take on other people’s emotions but if they do, teach them how to release them to mother earth or father sky, so they don’t feel like they are responsible for healing someone else.
-Teach them that some people will be able to unconsciously see their healing light and be afraid of it. Some people may even be mean to the child for that reason. Help the child understand this is the “curse” part and not to take it personally.
-Learn to listen to those intuitive messages even if they go against what others are saying, especially if they are saying they don’t like or feel comfortable around someone even if others are saying they are wrong.
But mostly teach them about love. Loving themselves and loving others sometimes involves saying “no” even if for no other reason than “it just doesn’t feel right.”
And if you have an intuitive child, do what you can to really help them but mostly stop calling them sensitive!!
Jill K Thomas CHT
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
Author of the books “Tales from the Trance” & “Feed your Real Hunger”